Tuesday, May 8th
The State Theatre
By The Way, I Forgive You is not an album about
forgiveness in the easy sense—where someone
has hurt you and then suddenly there’s a great
reconciliation and a remorse-filled scene with
two people running across the golden
field towards an embrace that somehow undoes a
lifetime of pain and damage, as if the past has no
meaning. It’s about radical acceptance (not to be
confused with complacency) and unconditional
Whoever is reading this, your parents will die.
You may have been hurt or loved by them,
probably both. But can you forgive them for
leaving in the end?
We are a powerful generation witnessing war
and division like never before, yet somehow this
is the safest time to be alive in human history.
Can we love one another as ourselves? More
importantly, can we love ourselves at all?
The songs alone aren’t universal messages, they
are personal stories of our parents and childhood,
our divorces, oppressive religion, the fact that
marriage is hard and having children is
terrifying, even the sting of death. It is the story
of forgiveness, that despite all this keeps us
innocently climbing out of bed every morning
open to love—big terrible trembling love.
I don’t love you because you’ve done what I
think you should do with your life. I love you
whatever you do, but I’ve got a life to live too.
And, by the way, I forgive you.